Real Love

September 8, 2019 3 By Lance Kelly

Real love is an impersonal power that destroys the concepts of love, which are interpretations of the radiant idea itself. It’s impossible to teach another of love. This is because love is an original state of being and always accessible as direct experience when in touch with the innocence and simplicity of life. When love is invoked and becomes the passion of living, all that eventually remains is a body purified of the corruption in matter.

The difficulty is that our bodies have become insulated by the compacted layers of human experience, represented through the ages of immemorial past. The task of love in these times is to journey back through the attachment to sexual excitement and emotional pain to re-unite with the formless divinity behind the body. But the personal demands and commitment required to serve a higher love, often over many years, makes this rare indeed. Nevertheless everyone alive contributes in some way to the rectification of ignorance of love’s purpose through being born and living out their ordinary lives.

Nothing is more confrontational and spiritually productive than being in a love partnership. This is because the power of attraction that brought two people together contains energetically the future circumstances to bring both to a deeper realisation of love. The often extreme challenges and difficulties encountered are love’s way of making each more honest to the purpose of being in relationship. When someone has suffered enough from the hurts and disappointments of past sexual experiences, they are in the necessary process of unlearning just about everything concerning love in existence.

Sometimes in making physical love, something happens out of the ordinary, even for people who are not necessarily spiritually inclined to make love more conscious. They reach or touch upon an exalted place of supreme beauty. This is registered as an extraordinarily potent quality of accentuated pleasure and divine wonder. This is the tantric power of union between the male and female principles. It happens to awaken, if possible, the idea of pure sensuality which is the inherent power of love within everybody on earth. When two people in partnership are willing to go all the way for love, the integrity of this divine state of being inspires them both to enter more deeply this sacred space of reality.

A man’s authority is determined by his power to love woman and contain her divine beauty in lovemaking. Only ‘She’, the formless love behind the appearance of the billions of physical women’s bodies, on earth can bestow the accolade. When he has sufficiently transformed his sexual wanting and served the female principle, both in his endeavour to love her physically and in his worldly function, he undergoes a fundamental change in consciousness. This enables him to remain more present in the sexual act.

In what follows I’ll endeavour to describe from the male perspective what happens in love as beauty is transcended to knowledge, and then to the indescribable state of divine love.

His being merges with the purified space of the consciousness of the vagina. Here there is no personal lover, only the impersonal presence of the male principle. The emanation of male authority purified of the taint of self attracts the female principle of love through the unifying power, communicated as the absence of any sexual force. The female principle waits behind the veil of existence for her beloved man to recognise and unite with her essential divine presence. The union is registered as rapture and a sense of completion. Only a man who has died innumerable deaths in the devotion to love can invoke this sacred union.

Perhaps the most extraordinary realisation in this intensified space of being is that it is love itself which makes the love, the sensory bodies of man or woman simply being the means through which love is made more conscious on earth.

My e-book ‘Making Love Real’ is available on the website for anyone looking to make love more real in their lives.