The Broken Heart
Love is the solution to all the misery and injustice inflicted upon the earth; but it’s not necessarily the kind of love that we human beings embrace as a way of life. This is because love has a mystical purpose which is an aspect of cosmic consciousness. Man and woman represent the highest potential of all the species to realise love as a conscious state of being. Love is the finest intelligence that ranges from the personal to the impersonal.
Personal love is the realm of normal relationships, which are based mostly on sentiment and emotional attachment to another. Eventually, personal love has to be transcended for the simplicity of divine or impersonal love to be realised. The catalyst in every case to a deeper realisation of love is emotional pain and the detachment from the personal element in love. The greater the love in existence of anyone or anything, the more intense the pain and suffering. But within this apparent paradox is love’s solution and release from the restrictions and tyranny of personal love. Love’s solution is to break the heart of every lover that ever dared to love. This can happen as a result of a particular event or as a more gradual process over time.
Around the region of the heart is an emotional band consisting of all the negative experiences of the past in love. This can sometimes be registered as a dull ache, which makes someone feel disconnected from love. In extremes, the effect of this calloused pain makes an individual cut off from love altogether. In most cases lovers’ hearts are broken, only to be repaired and for the experience to be repeated with a different partner. To permanently remove the psychic dam that blocks the stream of pure love from within, the pain has to be consciously faced in the knowledge of what is no longer tolerable or acceptable as a way of love. Although feelings may linger in the transitionary period, there must be no self-judgement as this will perpetuate the agony. It’s the knowledge of love’s purpose which takes an individual beyond the personal attachments into the impersonal realm of love.
Within everybody is the divine light of love. For a man this is the most beautiful female, and for woman the most magnificent man. Each physical lover represents an aspect of the formless unknowable divinity behind the body. When someone is attracted to another, there is the recognition in the presence of that person which resonates with the formless love within. The physical body is really a vehicle of love which, in the absence of personal choice, would naturally draw to itself the perfect mate. Pure attraction is not reliant on the normal feelings that usually arise by the appearance of physical beauty. Although there can be sexual desire, pure attraction is distinguished by the absence of choice and the knowledge of the rightness of the union.
When the divine union is made, love flows unimpeded throughout the body. This source of love creates a constant sense of wellbeing and freedom so that the individual need never undergo prolonged emotional suffering again.
Extract from forthcoming e-book: ‘ Making Love Real’
This pure attraction sure seems like something that should happen more so. What of our discernment’s our wisdoms?
Right discernment and wisdom is the value of experience of having been disabused of the false notions and concepts of personal love. Everyone as they mature is a little wiser than they were in their youth. But that’s not enough, otherwise this world would be a different place where women could walk alone at night without fear. Without having realised the divine purpose of love (of which the world at present has no knowledge), the direction the person takes is invariably selfish with predictable results.
Pure attraction functions in the absence of personal likes and dislikes and through the surrender to the great impersonal movement of life. The simplicity of love is that there’s no choice. When someone has suffered enough, the principle of love steps in and is able to provide whatever is needed to fulfil the heart’s desire. The difficulty is that the person usually forgets the lessons of love in the throes of a new relationship and, throwing caution to the wind, goes on to make the same mistakes as before. I cover this subject and many other aspects of love in detail in my forthcoming book.
Thank you for getting in touch, Signe.
It seems such a great loss this love.
The times l have thought, this is love, only to have it broken.
There aren’t many who could recognise this kind of love, again, such a loss.
Yes! This process you describe, the paradox of breaking into greater Love is so beautifully put to words:
And all shall be well and / All manner of thing shall be well / When the tongues of flame are in-folded / Into the crowned knot of fire / And the fire and the rose are one. — T.S. Eliot
We are made of Love, it is the Essence of all. To return to this field consciously, to live from it is our destiny.